Think more about keeping a sparkle in your eyes and less on fighting the fine lines around them. Yes, it's true that the Olympic-sized pool of dating prospects you swam in years ago seems like a lap lane when you reach your 50s. Get off of the sideline and get involved in your passions and interests.
Whether you're single again after the end of a long-term relationship or you've been around the block a few times still on the hunt for Mr. These strategies can help you develop your inner explorer to make dating after 50 a little less daunting: 1.Confront your fears You're never too old to find love, but that's not a message gay men hear very often. After years of "working on ourselves" and fighting social prejudice to gain self-esteem, many of us struggle to keep it. The gay community's — OK, let's get real, mostly the gay male community's — ageism. Who'd want you when there's some 30-year-old hottie turning everyone's heads at the gym? Focus instead on being your best self, no matter what your age.Maybe you just stopped believing in the kind of naive love that you can only trust when you're young. Embrace your new reality For every 20-something entering the gay dating scene full of wide-eyed wonder, there's a 50-something (or a 60-, 70- or older-something) man back on the market after a relationship ends. Your next romantic partner will benefit from all of that, and from your passions for the life that's in front of you. Give up trying to be perfect, too, especially if that's a code word for "young." Yes, it's important to take care of your body and your health, but no need to obsess.But what about the deeper, more mature love that allows for the wide spectrum of experience and truth? One is learning the rules; the other has "been there, dated that" and wonders, "Now what? Instead of trying to be 25 again, get comfortable in your skin. That way, when someone touches you, they'll really feel you, and not a bundle of self-critical tension. Pick your meet 'n' greet venues wisely Does walking into a gay bar make you feel more out of place than Lady Gaga shopping for clothes at a mall?Naturally, I should be steering you towards Telegraph Dating, which I'm contractually obliged to tell you is BRILLIANT.
e Harmony e Harmony claims to be "responsible for nearly 4% of new U. marriages" and scores well in surveys of online dating sites, if you're the sort of person who believes surveys.
This is a serious site for serious (I didn't say desperate) singles - and you'd better be serious to fork out £45 for a month's membership (although reviewing your matches is free).
e Harmony takes a quantitive approach to matching based on “key dimensions of compatibility proven to be the foundation for a long-term relationship, like character, intellect and values”.
There's more focus on getting into a committed relationship than there is on making sure it's the right one.
The truth is that sometimes when you want a relationship so badly, you draft the first reasonable candidate.
Bette Davis used to say, "Getting older ain't for sissies." Amen!